29 Quotes from Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered book by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark

Hello friends. This post is a collection of quotes from the book - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark.

Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered has been described as an afternoon coffee date with your best friend that spills late into the night - where you share your darkest secrets and hardest-earned advice, and then emerge back into the world fully recharged.

Part 1 and 2 Quotes

Fuck politeness. Fuck the way we were socialized. Fuck the expectation that we always put other people's needs first. And while we're at it, fuck the patriarchy! Yeah, I said it. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 1

Consider yourself lucky if you never joined the club of kids from broken homes who had the unsettling experience of being privy to our parents' dating lives. For most of us card-carrying members, it was our first glimpse of how human our parents actually are, an earth-shattering realization at any age. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 1

I know now that no matter how far into something you are, how many times you've agreed and moved forward, you can always decide to turn back. It's often not easy or comfortable, but you [do] get to choose. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 1

Of all the life-affirming slogans born out of Georgia and I ranting to each other as we discuss true crime, I like Fuck Politeness the best. It's direct, it's catchy, and you get to say fuck - a true catchphrase trifecta. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 2

We barely get any time on this planet. Do not spend it pleasing other people. Fuck politeness. Live life exactly how you want to live it so you can love the life you make for yourself. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 2

We're all born sweet baby angels. Darling little cooing, farting babies that haven't got an evil bone or bad intention present. And then life happens to us, and some of us lose that sweet-baby-angel sheen and become harder, badder, and our halos crack or rust. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Introduction to Part 2

The shortcut to human connection is meeting on the common ground of hating a third person. But that shit is low vibrational and leaves a fart fog of shittiness in the air. And sometimes, people already have so much shittiness going on in their lives, they just can't take another moment of it. Remember that. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 3

It's so fun when you start to feel the power of honesty. And if you can get to a healthy enough place where you wield this power in a responsible way, you'll become the clutch friend that people will someday reference in their advice book. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 3

Friendship leads to human connection, which feeds your soul. More than kale or spinning or fifteen-minute naps under your desk, conscious communication with your clutch friends is the best form of self-care. It boosts your self-esteem. It makes you feel worthwhile. It gets your mind off your mind. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 3

Part 3 and 4 Quotes

EVERYONE HAS AN AGENDA. No matter who it is: your aunt, the government, raccoons. We're all just out here in the world trying to get what we want. You are, too. It's not necessarily a bad thing. It's also not permanent. You can change your agenda at any time. Just don't let anyone convince you to put your agenda aside in place of theirs, even if they claim to have all the answers. Especially if they claim to have all the answers. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 5

There are tens of thousands of people living in Los Angeles who moved here because they thought they had what it takes to become famous actors. But only about nine people ever really do. So over time, this city has become densely populated with once-hot citizens critically wounded by their own broken dreams. It's like a battlefield in the Civil War, I imagine. All these people desperately staggering around Hollywood with open psychic wounds, silently screaming for a medic. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 5

The cult of booze tries to brainwash you into thinking you need it to have any fun at all, when the truth is exactly the opposite. If you're not careful, it will kill all the fun entirely. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 5

Well, it turns out life is not a meritocracy. If you show up, even in the most perfect human form, you will get your heart broken. You just will. That's part of the deal. No one gets out unscathed, unless they stay home. But then you just get scathed in a different way. You get scathed with loneliness. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 5

Any Murderino will tell you how exciting it is to find someone who can talk to you about murder without judgment or hesitation. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 7

The Cult of Perfect would not accept me as a member, which is just fucking fine with me. I'm a jump-into-the-deep-end-and-see-if-you-can-swim kinda girl. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 7

Part 5 and 6 Quotes

Being a lunatic can feel good in right-sized doses, as long as you know how deep the sinkhole goes and when to get back out. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 9

It's important to have someone to emote to, even if it's someone you're paying. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 10

Having anxiety makes it so there's a running tally in your head, kinda like a stock-market ticker tape, of all the things you've done wrong, will do wrong, how things can and probably will go wrong, and just general ways everything is fucked. It becomes really hard to live a life that has any semblance of normalcy when that tape keeps fucking tickering at all hours of the day. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 10

Introspection brings up messy crap, which I think is why it's so hard for some people to get themselves to go to therapy at first. Sometimes we're just not prepared to even think about the messy psychological bullshit, let alone unpack it and start to sort through it. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 10

"Bigger dummies than you." That admittedly somewhat-cynical saying has been my motto pretty much my entire adult life. It applies to so many different aspects in life. Bigger dummies than I am have written a book. Bigger dummies than I am have made a fulfilling career despite not having graduated college. Bigger dummies than I am have beaten their eating disorders. So why the hell not me, too?? - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 12

Remember that as long as you're attempting to not be a dick and doing your best to do good things, you're worthy of a good life, one that you're proud of and that when you wake up every morning makes you stoked to be yourself. And if you don't wake up stoked to be you, figure out the first step you can take toward that life you want. Once you've taken that first step, then figure out the next step, and so on. It might feel like a long journey (it is), but for me, that was the most important part, because once I got to where I wanted to be, I was confident in my ability to grab that opportunity by the balls and make it my bitch. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 12

Part 7 and 8 Quotes

When you don't act with the understanding that no one can take care of you better than you, you can find yourself in a lot of trouble, living a life that you don't control, or trusting people with nefarious intentions. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Introduction to Part 7

The acute pain you feel when you get your heart broken … have you ever felt it? Oh my god, it fucking hurts. There is no escape from it, no amount of pills to help you fall asleep and sleep well, no amount of busyness you can fill your day with that'll block out the raw, constant pain, and it's physical pain, I swear. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 13

Essentially, straightforward, honest, and clean is the only way to break up with someone and have you both leave with your dignity intact. No ghosting, no months of breakup sex, no hemming and hawing and toying with them. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 13

Driving in LA is and always has been a feat of bravery, something best left to sadists and those of us with a Xanax prescription. Bumper-to-bumper traffic is the norm, at any time of day, and one out of every three drivers is a raging lunatic asshole who doesn't think the rules apply to him because he has lots of coke and a car that could pay off your student loans. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 13

Don't mistake someone's quietness, lack of participation in a conversation, or - worse - air of disinterest as intriguing. If someone holds their cards close to their chest, it doesn't necessarily mean their cards are worth fighting to see. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 13

Love is supposed to make you feel a little bonkers and batshit, but there's bad crazy and good crazy, and you realize which is which when you love someone who doesn't love you back - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 13

For girls, junior high is a daily dystopian nightmare of apocalyptic emotional warfare. Kill or be killed. Gossip or be gossiped about. Figure out some way to be popular or prepare to have your body roasted on a spit on the side of the road. This metaphor is not an exaggeration. For girls in junior high, life gets REAL dark. Like, Cormac McCarthy dark. And you're only thirteen, so it's hard. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 14

The only way we can evolve and grow is by accepting our flaws and doing our best to grow out of them. - Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 16

Cited Quotes

Sometimes you just have to jump out the window and grow wings on the way down. - Ray Bradbury, as quoted in Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 4

We are cups, constantly and quietly being filled. The trick is, knowing how to tip ourselves over and let the beautiful stuff out. - Ray Bradbury, as quoted in Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 4

We talk about how many women were raped last year, not about how many men raped women. We talk about how many girls in a school district were harassed last year, not about how many boys harassed girls. We talk about how many teenaged girls got pregnant in the state of Vermont last year, rather than how many men and teenaged boys got girls pregnant. So you can see how the use of this passive voice has a political effect. It shifts the focus off men and boys and onto girls and women. Even the term violence against women is problematic. It's a passive construction. There's no active agent in the sentence. It's a bad thing that happens to women. It's a bad thing that happens to women, but when you look at that term violence against women, nobody is doing it to them. It just happens. Men aren't even a part of it! - Jackson Katz, as quoted in Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, Chapter 16

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